I cannot believe I forgot to share all of the pictures from my trip to Lake Tahoe. Kim, Cristina, and I all met while we were stationed at Fort Meade in Maryland. Kim’s family is civilian and Cristina’s family is army. That doesn’t matter except that it means Kim is still in MD, while we’ve since moved to Spain and now South Dakota and Cristina has moved to Georgia and now Hawaii, so it’s been a while since we’ve all been together. Two years ago we were talking about meeting when we moved back stateside. So, we tried to pick a place kind of in the middle between MD and HI… and we settled on Las Vegas. We decided not to go there because we couldn’t find a cheap place to stay. We have points in a condo system, and we were able to find a place on Lake Tahoe for a few points, so that’s what we decided to do.
It turned out to be the best time because the weather was warm, especially for October. Cristina has lived in HI too long because she was freezing in the 60-70 degree weather. But we had a great time hiking, eating, and just hanging out. I miss them so much.
I know I’ve said it before, and I guess I’m going to continue to talk about it until I find someone with a solution to the problem, but people in the military don’t have true community. We might find it for months at a time, but that lifelong connection with people, raising your children together, and going through life together just doesn’t happen in the military and it does a huge disservice to the men and women and especially children who have to live this way. I don’t have an answer, but I’m constantly thinking about this and I’m hoping there can be some kind of solution or at least a better way.
Anyway, we had a great time for 3 days and here are some of the pictures… Lake Tahoe is beautiful! It was the first time I had ever been there, and my first time in California!!
We’ve never done the deployment thing, and I realize how rare that is for an active duty family. I knew it was coming, but it’s not something that I thought about very much. Since we’ve found out that Ron’s leaving next year, I’ve been thinking more and more about it. At times it seems really far away, but I know that it’ll be here before I know it and I’ll be wondering where the months went and why he’s leaving so soon. I’ve already been all over pinterest trying to find out ideas for countdowns for the kids and resources for me. The kids and I will actually sit down before he leaves and decide which countdown each kid will use to keep up with the days he’s gone, and I know they’ll enjoy that part (most of the countdowns involve eating candy of some kind each day 🙂
But what about our family staying connected while he’s away? That’s the main question that I’ve asked of deployed members that I’ve interviewed, and it’s the one I’ve been thinking about the most recently. Ron and I have been married 18 years (we’ll miss our anniversary together again next year because of the deployment), and at times that seems like a really long time. At other times, it seems like a blink of the eye. I have read tons of books and articles about marriage and I understand the basics
- Pray for him daily!
- Communication is the key!
- Speak his love language and keep his love tank full!
- Don’t go to bed angry!
That are so many more things that we just do that are habits now. My concern about this distance that we’re going to have is that I wonder if maybe after 18 years I’ve gotten complacent. Have I continued to do those daily things that say I love you, and how will I be able to continue to convey that to him when he’s away from home? How will our kids stay in contact with him and feel like he’s still a part of their life? He’s my best friend, and when I have a problem or even when my brain is moving at 100mph and I can’t get control of it, he’s the one I turn to and the one I talk to about everything. What happens when I can’t do that everyday all the time?
I know Pinterest can’t answer all of these questions for me, but I’m hoping to at least get some resources to help us cope. I’ve added quite a few pins to the board now, and I’ll continue to add more of them. I know we’ll make it to the deployment and then I know we’ll all make it through the deployment. Please pray for us!